Comments on: What about the men? http://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/what-about-the-men/ "A tiny act can have profound effects." Wed, 06 Oct 2010 00:09:03 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: kdance0081 http://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/what-about-the-men/comment-page-3/#comment-30297 kdance0081 Thu, 22 Apr 2010 20:45:32 +0000 http://www.racerelationsproject.org/?p=2110#comment-30297 I think that in some ways men are forced to conform to societal rules and social constructs but perhaps in their younger years and they may not be as vocal about the necessity to conform later. It may seem dated and overplayed but still the conception that boys don’t cry is alive and well in society today. Although there may be more men than before who do not apply to this “rule” I think it is still prevalent. Also, I think that as young men enter into the social scene where they may feel the need to conform, they do so in more subtle ways than young women so perhaps it becomes less noticeable. Also, from the boy don’t cry, or emote in general, there is the sense that it is not necessary for them to make their transformations to fit the in crowd publically known. I think that in some ways men are forced to conform to societal rules and social constructs but perhaps in their younger years and they may not be as vocal about the necessity to conform later. It may seem dated and overplayed but still the conception that boys don’t cry is alive and well in society today. Although there may be more men than before who do not apply to this “rule” I think it is still prevalent. Also, I think that as young men enter into the social scene where they may feel the need to conform, they do so in more subtle ways than young women so perhaps it becomes less noticeable. Also, from the boy don’t cry, or emote in general, there is the sense that it is not necessary for them to make their transformations to fit the in crowd publically known.

]]> By: tve5009 http://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/what-about-the-men/comment-page-3/#comment-30178 tve5009 Thu, 22 Apr 2010 01:44:19 +0000 http://www.racerelationsproject.org/?p=2110#comment-30178 I believe that some men do try to conform to what society perceives them to be. From the way they dress to the way they talk and even to the way they may treat women. In the African American society men who are mostly popular and the society I grew up in are always rappers or basketball players. I know too many black men that aspire to be rappers and basketball players without even thinking of getting the right education first. Even when it comes to the way they dress most of the fashion trends start with celebrities and then young men start to try and dress like this. I remember when I was growing up back in the Bronx guys caring about “being fresh” (having the brand name clothes). It had to be Jordan’s, Gucci’s and Prada’s on their feet. I think the only difference between the way men let society/media affect and the way women do is that women take it more serious because they want to be “beautiful and more accepted” I believe that some men do try to conform to what society perceives them to be. From the way they dress to the way they talk and even to the way they may treat women. In the African American society men who are mostly popular and the society I grew up in are always rappers or basketball players. I know too many black men that aspire to be rappers and basketball players without even thinking of getting the right education first. Even when it comes to the way they dress most of the fashion trends start with celebrities and then young men start to try and dress like this. I remember when I was growing up back in the Bronx guys caring about “being fresh” (having the brand name clothes). It had to be Jordan’s, Gucci’s and Prada’s on their feet. I think the only difference between the way men let society/media affect and the way women do is that women take it more serious because they want to be “beautiful and more accepted”

]]> By: stephlova12 http://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/what-about-the-men/comment-page-3/#comment-30037 stephlova12 Wed, 21 Apr 2010 03:58:58 +0000 http://www.racerelationsproject.org/?p=2110#comment-30037 What about men? Men are just the same as women except the different body types and how the body is form. Although we handle situations different than some females would, I honestly believed that were easily influenced by culture as well as them. Matter fact scratch that statement I’ve just made. Everyone is influenced by the media in some way. When growing up as a youngster you can’t tell me that one did not look up to a famous person or leading actor and wanted to be like them. I know I did and still have dreams of becoming or being better than a certain person. Today in economy class, my professor was giving a speech about monopoly and how diamonds have a huge affect on love. You know when seeing a commercial about diamonds it’s usually the soul mate giving it to the other portraying how they feel about that certain person. Well in that class he was telling us and showing us clips of how the media basically says the best gift showing love is giving a diamond. So our professor told us that he asked his wife what she wanted for their twenty fifth anniversary. It happens to be a diamond ring, so he told her does she want a perfect diamond or a unique diamond. The difference is that a perfect diamond is shaped up and is not rare and unique diamond meaning only you have that certain kind and it cost thousands of dollars more. She didn’t know so she picks the perfect diamond. He told her the difference and she picks the unique diamond. So he asked the boys in the class, if the media portrayed copper as big as they do diamonds and diamonds was falling under the radar, what would we choose to buy? About all of us said copper and one answered copper because “monkey see, monkey do, and you would be stupid not to chase after what monkey like”. Showing that whatever the media or society is boasting about. You will see a huge drift in how we human beings will start to focus more on things like that. Myself is a victim of doing this as well. I want all the fancy things that I see on TV and you can’t blame me for not wanting them. They are kind of establishing your social norm in society. Showing how long your money is rappers would say. What about men? Men are just the same as women except the different body types and how the body is form. Although we handle situations different than some females would, I honestly believed that were easily influenced by culture as well as them. Matter fact scratch that statement I’ve just made. Everyone is influenced by the media in some way. When growing up as a youngster you can’t tell me that one did not look up to a famous person or leading actor and wanted to be like them. I know I did and still have dreams of becoming or being better than a certain person.
Today in economy class, my professor was giving a speech about monopoly and how diamonds have a huge affect on love. You know when seeing a commercial about diamonds it’s usually the soul mate giving it to the other portraying how they feel about that certain person. Well in that class he was telling us and showing us clips of how the media basically says the best gift showing love is giving a diamond. So our professor told us that he asked his wife what she wanted for their twenty fifth anniversary. It happens to be a diamond ring, so he told her does she want a perfect diamond or a unique diamond. The difference is that a perfect diamond is shaped up and is not rare and unique diamond meaning only you have that certain kind and it cost thousands of dollars more. She didn’t know so she picks the perfect diamond. He told her the difference and she picks the unique diamond. So he asked the boys in the class, if the media portrayed copper as big as they do diamonds and diamonds was falling under the radar, what would we choose to buy? About all of us said copper and one answered copper because “monkey see, monkey do, and you would be stupid not to chase after what monkey like”. Showing that whatever the media or society is boasting about. You will see a huge drift in how we human beings will start to focus more on things like that. Myself is a victim of doing this as well. I want all the fancy things that I see on TV and you can’t blame me for not wanting them. They are kind of establishing your social norm in society. Showing how long your money is rappers would say.

]]> By: shawndawn http://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/what-about-the-men/comment-page-3/#comment-30035 shawndawn Tue, 20 Apr 2010 23:39:30 +0000 http://www.racerelationsproject.org/?p=2110#comment-30035 As a man( which meaning myself) I honestly believe that some men do exactly the same thing as women do but just in a different manner. As a women the most attractive women are the more skinny and petite females. Well honestly that isn't true but that is beside the point. Men want to or at least most of them want to be the more masculine and buffer type male, but in other instances men also want to be your so called pretty boy type of male. So I honestly believe society plays a big role on how men present themselves. For example , in class 3 females presented a ten minute skit about how girls are pressured to be this barbie figure individual person. Men are suppose to have nice bodies and rock beach abs. So men are pressured to do things such as steroids, not saying that I would take them, but many men do to look like a ken doll for the ladies. So to answer your question do men have it as bad as women yes in certain instances. But the differences is the women media physic is being protrayed I believe twice as much as males. Even in beer commercials, women are always so lean and fit looking like models 99.9 percent of the time. And men are often times drinking the beer with beer bellies sitting on the coach watching ESPN. That to society is often times excepted and no one really cares about the beer belly, But if a women had a beer belly it would be looked as a terriable image and people wouldn't even attempt to buy that brand of beer. So like i was saying yes men deal with the same problems and influential media pressure as women do on a day to day basis , but I believe women deal with it twice as much and if not that triple as much. We all live in a world that is so depended on looks and popularity that we often forget the to look at the person for who or what they really are and bring to the table. Its a tough society to live in, but honestly I believe if you are skinny, fat, small, tall, ugly or gorgeous to a magazine cover artist6 or whatever there is something about you that will make you more beatiful then the super model that rips the run way with her petite figure. You just have to know what you bring to the table . To be noticed is just to be yourself, not to try and look like the next person because that is what you were born to look the same as everyone else we wouldn,t have these problems. A real man wants a real women not a pretty face they come a dime a dozen. As a man( which meaning myself) I honestly believe that some men do exactly the same thing as women do but just in a different manner. As a women the most attractive women are the more skinny and petite females. Well honestly that isn't true but that is beside the point. Men want to or at least most of them want to be the more masculine and buffer type male, but in other instances men also want to be your so called pretty boy type of male. So I honestly believe society plays a big role on how men present themselves. For example , in class 3 females presented a ten minute skit about how girls are pressured to be this barbie figure individual person. Men are suppose to have nice bodies and rock beach abs. So men are pressured to do things such as steroids, not saying that I would take them, but many men do to look like a ken doll for the ladies.

So to answer your question do men have it as bad as women yes in certain instances. But the differences is the women media physic is being protrayed I believe twice as much as males. Even in beer commercials, women are always so lean and fit looking like models 99.9 percent of the time. And men are often times drinking the beer with beer bellies sitting on the coach watching ESPN. That to society is often times excepted and no one really cares about the beer belly, But if a women had a beer belly it would be looked as a terriable image and people wouldn't even attempt to buy that brand of beer. So like i was saying yes men deal with the same problems and influential media pressure as women do on a day to day basis , but I believe women deal with it twice as much and if not that triple as much. We all live in a world that is so depended on looks and popularity that we often forget the to look at the person for who or what they really are and bring to the table. Its a tough society to live in, but honestly I believe if you are skinny, fat, small, tall, ugly or gorgeous to a magazine cover artist6 or whatever there is something about you that will make you more beatiful then the super model that rips the run way with her petite figure. You just have to know what you bring to the table . To be noticed is just to be yourself, not to try and look like the next person because that is what you were born to look the same as everyone else we wouldn,t have these problems. A real man wants a real women not a pretty face they come a dime a dozen.

]]> By: Veggie_man http://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/what-about-the-men/comment-page-1/#comment-29992 Veggie_man Tue, 20 Apr 2010 06:31:23 +0000 http://www.racerelationsproject.org/?p=2110#comment-29992 I don’t agree with the part of your post that says women conform more than men—I think it’s equal. I’m sure a lot of feminist are going to have a word with me, but that is of course encouraged. First, the point of the skit in this class was to show how crazy it is that girls do stuff like get boob jobs just to please men/look sexy(obviously). The thing is, guys also go augmentation—calf muscle implants,. Granted, girls boob jobs are far more common, however it’s not easy to grow boobs, and even if you’re taking birth control, they can only grow so much. So if girls want bigger boobs, they go to surgery. If guys want bigger muscles, they just hit the gym. I suppose the lazy ones get the calf transplants. Either way, I’m not arguing that this a smart thing to do cause I think they are both stupid. Other surgeries men and women go through could be nose jobs, face lifts, and lipo. Again, I think more women go through these surgeries, but I don’t think that it is because women conform more than men—it just hasn’t caught on with men. There is of course the make-up issue, which I’m sort of surprised the makeup industry hasn’t started to market makeup to men. I think it would actually be pretty easy. Imagine if Mike the Situation started to put on makeup. I’m sure a fair amount of his beloved followers would follow suit. In any case, I still think a lot of the reasons people think that women conform more than men is simply because many trends haven’t caught on with men yet. I don’t agree with the part of your post that says women conform more than men—I think it’s equal. I’m sure a lot of feminist are going to have a word with me, but that is of course encouraged.

First, the point of the skit in this class was to show how crazy it is that girls do stuff like get boob jobs just to please men/look sexy(obviously). The thing is, guys also go augmentation—calf muscle implants,. Granted, girls boob jobs are far more common, however it’s not easy to grow boobs, and even if you’re taking birth control, they can only grow so much. So if girls want bigger boobs, they go to surgery. If guys want bigger muscles, they just hit the gym. I suppose the lazy ones get the calf transplants. Either way, I’m not arguing that this a smart thing to do cause I think they are both stupid.

Other surgeries men and women go through could be nose jobs, face lifts, and lipo. Again, I think more women go through these surgeries, but I don’t think that it is because women conform more than men—it just hasn’t caught on with men. There is of course the make-up issue, which I’m sort of surprised the makeup industry hasn’t started to market makeup to men. I think it would actually be pretty easy. Imagine if Mike the Situation started to put on makeup. I’m sure a fair amount of his beloved followers would follow suit.

In any case, I still think a lot of the reasons people think that women conform more than men is simply because many trends haven’t caught on with men yet.

]]> By: lalakers1113 http://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/what-about-the-men/comment-page-3/#comment-29978 lalakers1113 Tue, 20 Apr 2010 01:55:01 +0000 http://www.racerelationsproject.org/?p=2110#comment-29978 I do understand that women feel obligated to conform in society. A lot of pressure is placed on them to look their best. I constantly see girls watching what they eat and exercising to the point that they pass out. Even worse is on the weekend when you see girls going to parties dressing in an outfit that has less material than a shoelace. I understand that they want to attract guys, but they need to leave a little to the imagination. Girls conform constantly, but they are much more open about it. They let the world know how hard it is to fit into their pants or get the right tan. They care too much about what other people think, but they’re not the only ones. Guys always care about their image. I personally don’t take five hours in the morning to pick out my outfit for the day. I usually grab whatever shirt is on top, but I definitely care about how I look. I spend usually 4 days at the gym a week and try to eat healthy as much as I can. I like to look my best and have my body in good shape. If you ever step into the gym, the majority people there are self-conscious about their image. Why do you think guys take steroids? They want to impress everyone they see. When you look like you’re about to rip out of your shirt, a sort of unspoken respect is received. It’s nice to get a double take from someone walking down the street because you just finished a workout. Guys don’t want to mess with other guys that are bigger than them and girls are attracted to guys with a good body. Guys definitely want to look good because if they have the roll out of bed look, no girl is going to go for him. Anytime you go to a night club, every guy there is trying to score with the hottest chick in there. Everyone knows that the best looking guy will get that. So in a way it’s sort of a competition between other guys to see who can get the best girl. Over the past fifty years, guys have been becoming more self-conscious about their image. The term “metro sexual” is being used more now. Guys will go shopping in hopes of looking their best. I’m personally not a fan of shopping, but I don’t wear a Nike shirt out to a party. I take pride in looking my best and try to keep up with my grooming whether it’s doing my hair or a couple sprays of cologne. Guys may not show it, but deep down we care about our image too. I do understand that women feel obligated to conform in society. A lot of pressure is placed on them to look their best. I constantly see girls watching what they eat and exercising to the point that they pass out. Even worse is on the weekend when you see girls going to parties dressing in an outfit that has less material than a shoelace. I understand that they want to attract guys, but they need to leave a little to the imagination. Girls conform constantly, but they are much more open about it. They let the world know how hard it is to fit into their pants or get the right tan. They care too much about what other people think, but they’re not the only ones.
Guys always care about their image. I personally don’t take five hours in the morning to pick out my outfit for the day. I usually grab whatever shirt is on top, but I definitely care about how I look. I spend usually 4 days at the gym a week and try to eat healthy as much as I can. I like to look my best and have my body in good shape. If you ever step into the gym, the majority people there are self-conscious about their image. Why do you think guys take steroids? They want to impress everyone they see. When you look like you’re about to rip out of your shirt, a sort of unspoken respect is received. It’s nice to get a double take from someone walking down the street because you just finished a workout. Guys don’t want to mess with other guys that are bigger than them and girls are attracted to guys with a good body. Guys definitely want to look good because if they have the roll out of bed look, no girl is going to go for him. Anytime you go to a night club, every guy there is trying to score with the hottest chick in there. Everyone knows that the best looking guy will get that. So in a way it’s sort of a competition between other guys to see who can get the best girl.
Over the past fifty years, guys have been becoming more self-conscious about their image. The term “metro sexual” is being used more now. Guys will go shopping in hopes of looking their best. I’m personally not a fan of shopping, but I don’t wear a Nike shirt out to a party. I take pride in looking my best and try to keep up with my grooming whether it’s doing my hair or a couple sprays of cologne. Guys may not show it, but deep down we care about our image too.

]]> By: Jharred_Tulloch http://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/what-about-the-men/comment-page-3/#comment-29962 Jharred_Tulloch Mon, 19 Apr 2010 21:57:14 +0000 http://www.racerelationsproject.org/?p=2110#comment-29962 For once I find a topic that I actually don’t have to think hard about answering. When it comes to society and its views of fashionable and “relevant” most seem to think that it is all based on the viewer’s opinion and what they see as attractive. But the truth of the matter is that there are a very small percentage of people in the United States who don’t look to the media to determine what they do in their personal lives. The media is what builds a society. From music, magazines, and movies, to the commercials, infomercials, and programs on the television, all of these modes of media all play a part in molding and creating the communities we live in. I also believe that the main audiences for these media outlets are between the ages of 13-18, the adolescents of our societies. These adolescents then grow up to become the next college generation, where again, we are even more effected by the media. So when the question arises, if men are affected as much as women by the media, the answer is plain and simple. Yes. The media’s purpose has, and always will be to “affect” the masses. They want us to do what they want us to do, they want us to wear what they want us to wear, so what would be the purpose of just focusing on women? The reason why society seems to focus on women being the main bitch of the media is that women are the primary consumer, however men on a daily basis see things in the media that affect in the same way women are affected. When women see a half naked swim suit model with her ribs showing with huge boobs they think that that’s what the norm should be and that’s what they need to look like to fit in, or better yet, stand out. Men do the same thing when they see the cover of Men’s Health Magazine. They wonder how the men get that ripped, what they need to do to be that ripped, why do those men get more women than me, etc. Men aren’t in the gym usually for themselves, there in the gym because they are trying to conform to society’s view of perfection set by the media over the years. I know I probably sound like a radical political supremacist of something but this is what I see as the truth. The main reason I think this to be true has to do with the amount of men and women around the world that starve themselves and work themselves raggid trying to conform to what they see on tv or in a magazine. It’s foolish and unhealthy, and the day we allow ourselves to love us for who we are and not try to go with what the media portrays as great, then we’ll be fine. For once I find a topic that I actually don’t have to think hard about answering. When it comes to society and its views of fashionable and “relevant” most seem to think that it is all based on the viewer’s opinion and what they see as attractive. But the truth of the matter is that there are a very small percentage of people in the United States who don’t look to the media to determine what they do in their personal lives. The media is what builds a society. From music, magazines, and movies, to the commercials, infomercials, and programs on the television, all of these modes of media all play a part in molding and creating the communities we live in. I also believe that the main audiences for these media outlets are between the ages of 13-18, the adolescents of our societies. These adolescents then grow up to become the next college generation, where again, we are even more effected by the media. So when the question arises, if men are affected as much as women by the media, the answer is plain and simple. Yes. The media’s purpose has, and always will be to “affect” the masses. They want us to do what they want us to do, they want us to wear what they want us to wear, so what would be the purpose of just focusing on women? The reason why society seems to focus on women being the main bitch of the media is that women are the primary consumer, however men on a daily basis see things in the media that affect in the same way women are affected. When women see a half naked swim suit model with her ribs showing with huge boobs they think that that’s what the norm should be and that’s what they need to look like to fit in, or better yet, stand out. Men do the same thing when they see the cover of Men’s Health Magazine. They wonder how the men get that ripped, what they need to do to be that ripped, why do those men get more women than me, etc. Men aren’t in the gym usually for themselves, there in the gym because they are trying to conform to society’s view of perfection set by the media over the years. I know I probably sound like a radical political supremacist of something but this is what I see as the truth. The main reason I think this to be true has to do with the amount of men and women around the world that starve themselves and work themselves raggid trying to conform to what they see on tv or in a magazine. It’s foolish and unhealthy, and the day we allow ourselves to love us for who we are and not try to go with what the media portrays as great, then we’ll be fine.

]]> By: Drewbob59 http://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/what-about-the-men/comment-page-3/#comment-29933 Drewbob59 Mon, 19 Apr 2010 15:03:05 +0000 http://www.racerelationsproject.org/?p=2110#comment-29933 As a male I believe there isn’t a lot of force to conform to society. However, when I actually sit down and think about it, I believe there are a lot of natural or unconscious decisions to conform to society. I played football in high school so I always hung out with my football buddies and we would always do similar things such as watch the games and go out to eat and just kind of chill around town however it never really was conforming to society it is more like conforming to your group of friends. I believe it is very similar with females. I have met several females ranging in a vast array of characteristics. I don’t believe it is society that shapes us but the actual people we hang out with. Maybe this question isn’t as much what shapes us personality wise but the things we do. There are just certain things that certain genders do and if you do the opposite society frowns upon it I honestly disagree with this but it’s the way people treat it. There are things that are considered to be “feminine” so girls in the field are accepted by society but guys are looked at as “gay” even if they are not. This is where I believe we have a larger problem then what we wear because honestly girls wear what they wear so guys notice them. If their friends all wore clothing that did cover them up more guys would still find their way to them and they wouldn’t be conforming to society as we say they do. Women just believe that they have to do certain things and dress certain ways but the fact is most guys really just don’t care. We all, us guys, conform some such as we don’t wear sweat pants out to parties we usually wear jeans and a nice shirt or polo. It’s just girls at parties don’t only wear jeans and a nice top but they have to go out and get new dresses and never can wear the same one twice. I’m not sure why most girls are like that or even a lot of guys have to wear brand new clothing or a certain brand. I honestly believe it’s a status that we all hold each other to. People get so caught up in their “status” such as their group, culture, race, class, and many other categories that we have to conform to which ever means most to us. The problem is more of us need to conform to ourselves. I don’t think it’s a sex thing I think its humanity. We notice it more with girls and girls admit to it guys seem to do it more unconsciously but if you ask them why they actually are doing something or wearing something and they actually think about it is what means most to them. As a male I believe there isn’t a lot of force to conform to society. However, when I actually sit down and think about it, I believe there are a lot of natural or unconscious decisions to conform to society. I played football in high school so I always hung out with my football buddies and we would always do similar things such as watch the games and go out to eat and just kind of chill around town however it never really was conforming to society it is more like conforming to your group of friends. I believe it is very similar with females. I have met several females ranging in a vast array of characteristics. I don’t believe it is society that shapes us but the actual people we hang out with.
Maybe this question isn’t as much what shapes us personality wise but the things we do. There are just certain things that certain genders do and if you do the opposite society frowns upon it I honestly disagree with this but it’s the way people treat it. There are things that are considered to be “feminine” so girls in the field are accepted by society but guys are looked at as “gay” even if they are not. This is where I believe we have a larger problem then what we wear because honestly girls wear what they wear so guys notice them. If their friends all wore clothing that did cover them up more guys would still find their way to them and they wouldn’t be conforming to society as we say they do. Women just believe that they have to do certain things and dress certain ways but the fact is most guys really just don’t care. We all, us guys, conform some such as we don’t wear sweat pants out to parties we usually wear jeans and a nice shirt or polo. It’s just girls at parties don’t only wear jeans and a nice top but they have to go out and get new dresses and never can wear the same one twice. I’m not sure why most girls are like that or even a lot of guys have to wear brand new clothing or a certain brand. I honestly believe it’s a status that we all hold each other to.
People get so caught up in their “status” such as their group, culture, race, class, and many other categories that we have to conform to which ever means most to us. The problem is more of us need to conform to ourselves. I don’t think it’s a sex thing I think its humanity. We notice it more with girls and girls admit to it guys seem to do it more unconsciously but if you ask them why they actually are doing something or wearing something and they actually think about it is what means most to them.

]]> By: KabilBlila http://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/what-about-the-men/comment-page-3/#comment-29764 KabilBlila Sat, 17 Apr 2010 06:04:16 +0000 http://www.racerelationsproject.org/?p=2110#comment-29764 Men have to conform to society in a few certain ways, but not nearly in as many ways as much as women do. I feel the main reason that people have to conform is because they feel they need to be perceived as the norm. The norm is set by whats on television, whats in the movie theaters, whats on magazine covers, and etc. The women that are on all of these outlets are mainly women in show business, who are beautiful and have tremendous bodies, exemplifying the word perfect. Perfect face structure, perfect eyes, perfect smile, perfect chest, legs, everything. Guys on the other hand have more of a variety when it comes to this. Sure, there are good looking guys that are being showcased in the media, but there are all different kinds of guys. Fat guys, really skinny guys, weird looking guys, old guys, and so on. Its a big difference trying to look like Megan Fox then trying to look like Seth Rogen. This is one of the main reasons that men don't have to conform as much as women do. Another reason is that men are rarely asked to change their image or appearance. Growing up I would throw whatever clothes on, leave my hair the same way it was when I woke up, and start my day. Sure, I would get dressed up for weekends and what not but for most of the week it was just a different pair of sweatpants and a different random tee. Girls are always judged by what brand their wearing, how the colors match, do the shoes go with the outfit, and all of that. They are constantly reminded of this by other girls who are also wearing just as expensive clothes with expensive shoes, and they constantly strive to look better then each other. Guys on the other hand don't take much notice to what other guys are wearing unless its something really nice or something really dirty. It's just built into the female system to care more about what other people think about them in regards to their looks and appearance. Body issues are always prevalent whether it be face, chest, or lower body. They are constantly reminded of this by girls showing off their cleavage, wearing the shortest skirts, and so on. The only thing that men somewhat conform to is athletics. Its always embedded into a young boys way of thinking that he should be involved in sports. Thats why certain guys are always looked at as weird if they choose to sing or dance at a young age instead of playing basketball or baseball. You always want to go over to a guys place and watch the game, and not a soap opera. Other then that I can't see many other things that guys are forced to conform too. Men have to conform to society in a few certain ways, but not nearly in as many ways as much as women do. I feel the main reason that people have to conform is because they feel they need to be perceived as the norm. The norm is set by whats on television, whats in the movie theaters, whats on magazine covers, and etc. The women that are on all of these outlets are mainly women in show business, who are beautiful and have tremendous bodies, exemplifying the word perfect. Perfect face structure, perfect eyes, perfect smile, perfect chest, legs, everything. Guys on the other hand have more of a variety when it comes to this. Sure, there are good looking guys that are being showcased in the media, but there are all different kinds of guys. Fat guys, really skinny guys, weird looking guys, old guys, and so on. Its a big difference trying to look like Megan Fox then trying to look like Seth Rogen. This is one of the main reasons that men don't have to conform as much as women do.
Another reason is that men are rarely asked to change their image or appearance. Growing up I would throw whatever clothes on, leave my hair the same way it was when I woke up, and start my day. Sure, I would get dressed up for weekends and what not but for most of the week it was just a different pair of sweatpants and a different random tee. Girls are always judged by what brand their wearing, how the colors match, do the shoes go with the outfit, and all of that. They are constantly reminded of this by other girls who are also wearing just as expensive clothes with expensive shoes, and they constantly strive to look better then each other. Guys on the other hand don't take much notice to what other guys are wearing unless its something really nice or something really dirty.
It's just built into the female system to care more about what other people think about them in regards to their looks and appearance. Body issues are always prevalent whether it be face, chest, or lower body. They are constantly reminded of this by girls showing off their cleavage, wearing the shortest skirts, and so on.
The only thing that men somewhat conform to is athletics. Its always embedded into a young boys way of thinking that he should be involved in sports. Thats why certain guys are always looked at as weird if they choose to sing or dance at a young age instead of playing basketball or baseball. You always want to go over to a guys place and watch the game, and not a soap opera. Other then that I can't see many other things that guys are forced to conform too.

]]> By: KabilBlila http://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/what-about-the-men/comment-page-3/#comment-29758 KabilBlila Sat, 17 Apr 2010 06:02:06 +0000 http://www.racerelationsproject.org/?p=2110#comment-29758 Men have to conform to society in a few certain ways, but not nearly in as many ways as much as women do. I feel the main reason that people have to conform is because they feel they need to be perceived as the norm. The norm is set by whats on television, whats in the movie theaters, whats on magazine covers, and etc. The women that are on all of these outlets are mainly women in show business, who are beautiful and have tremendous bodies, exemplifying the word perfect. Perfect face structure, perfect eyes, perfect smile, perfect chest, legs, everything. Guys on the other hand have more of a variety when it comes to this. Sure, there are good looking guys that are being showcased in the media, but there are all different kinds of guys. Fat guys, really skinny guys, weird looking guys, old guys, and so on. Its a big difference trying to look like Megan Fox then trying to look like Seth Rogen. This is one of the main reasons that men don't have to conform as much as women do. Another reason is that men are rarely asked to change their image or appearance. Growing up I would throw whatever clothes on, leave my hair the same way it was when I woke up, and start my day. Sure, I would get dressed up for weekends and what not but for most of the week it was just a different pair of sweatpants and a different random tee. Girls are always judged by what brand their wearing, how the colors match, do the shoes go with the outfit, and all of that. They are constantly reminded of this by other girls who are also wearing just as expensive clothes with expensive shoes, and they constantly strive to look better then each other. Guys on the other hand don't take much notice to what other guys are wearing unless its something really nice or something really dirty. It's just built into the female system to care more about what other people think about them in regards to their looks and appearance. Body issues are always prevalent whether it be face, chest, or lower body. They are constantly reminded of this by girls showing off their cleavage, wearing the shortest skirts, and so on. The only thing that men somewhat conform to is athletics. Its always embedded into a young boys way of thinking that he should be involved in sports. Thats why certain guys are always looked at as weird if they choose to sing or dance at a young age instead of playing basketball or baseball. You always want to go over to a guys place and watch the game, and not a soap opera. Other then that I can't see many other things that guys are forced to conform too. Men have to conform to society in a few certain ways, but not nearly in as many ways as much as women do. I feel the main reason that people have to conform is because they feel they need to be perceived as the norm. The norm is set by whats on television, whats in the movie theaters, whats on magazine covers, and etc. The women that are on all of these outlets are mainly women in show business, who are beautiful and have tremendous bodies, exemplifying the word perfect. Perfect face structure, perfect eyes, perfect smile, perfect chest, legs, everything. Guys on the other hand have more of a variety when it comes to this. Sure, there are good looking guys that are being showcased in the media, but there are all different kinds of guys. Fat guys, really skinny guys, weird looking guys, old guys, and so on. Its a big difference trying to look like Megan Fox then trying to look like Seth Rogen. This is one of the main reasons that men don't have to conform as much as women do.
Another reason is that men are rarely asked to change their image or appearance. Growing up I would throw whatever clothes on, leave my hair the same way it was when I woke up, and start my day. Sure, I would get dressed up for weekends and what not but for most of the week it was just a different pair of sweatpants and a different random tee. Girls are always judged by what brand their wearing, how the colors match, do the shoes go with the outfit, and all of that. They are constantly reminded of this by other girls who are also wearing just as expensive clothes with expensive shoes, and they constantly strive to look better then each other. Guys on the other hand don't take much notice to what other guys are wearing unless its something really nice or something really dirty.
It's just built into the female system to care more about what other people think about them in regards to their looks and appearance. Body issues are always prevalent whether it be face, chest, or lower body. They are constantly reminded of this by girls showing off their cleavage, wearing the shortest skirts, and so on.
The only thing that men somewhat conform to is athletics. Its always embedded into a young boys way of thinking that he should be involved in sports. Thats why certain guys are always looked at as weird if they choose to sing or dance at a young age instead of playing basketball or baseball. You always want to go over to a guys place and watch the game, and not a soap opera. Other then that I can't see many other things that guys are forced to conform too.

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